Dear Queenie,

My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. Now we have a child.

The problem is he is in jail and he is not coming out now. I am struggling with me and my child at home and he doesn't want me to move on. He wants me to wait on him.

Queenie, what do you think?—Confused

Dear Confused,

I think you should ask yourself whether your boyfriend will be a good father and role model for his child, and a good partner for you when he finishes his prison sentence.

If the answer is "yes," wait for him. If the answer is "no," move on.

And if you are afraid of what he might do to you when he is out of prison, consult the Women's Desk, tel. 542-7940, and/or Safe Haven, hotline 9333, to learn what options you have.