Dear Queenie,

  My husband and I are getting divorced. We have a teenage daughter. When I got pregnant before we got married we planned for me to have an abortion, but I couldn’t go through with it.

  We ended up getting married, but he cheated on me from day one and I finally got sick of it all and now we are getting divorced. The thing is, we’re fighting over custody and I’m afraid my husband will tell our daughter that I didn’t want her and she almost never got born.

  Queenie, should I tell her before he has a chance to?—Worried mother

Dear Worried mother,

  This is not something your daughter ever needs to know.

  If her father is so vindictive that he tells her something so hurtful, you can explain that you almost made a terrible mistake, but thought better of it in time and thank God every day that you did.

  But if he never brings it up, neither should you.