Dear Queenie,

  Some married friends of mine have been having problems and they both had extramarital affairs. He ended his but the other day I saw her with her lover and it looked like they were still going at it.

  I don’t want to see either of my friends get hurt but I think he deserves to know what his wife is still doing.

  Queenie, should I tell him?—Undecided

Dear Undecided,

  No, but you shouldn’t lie to him either. If he asks you right out, you may have to tell him what you have seen.

  Meanwhile, try to stay away from the wife. You can’t tell what you haven’t seen. And let her know why you are avoiding her. Hopefully she will get the message.