Dear Queenie,
A couple of years ago I had an affair with someone I worked with. Later I met my boyfriend and when he learned about my relationship with the other guy he made me quit my job and promise never to go back into that store.
He also wants me to stop being friends with my ex-boss because he says she reminds him of the other guy. I explained to him that she had never approved of the affair (because the guy was married, but I didn’t tell him that) but he doesn’t care about that.
Queenie, should I do what he says?—Love him, love my friend
Dear Love,
Only if you want this control freak to run (read: ruin) your life completely. Next thing you know he won’t let you leave the house without him.
What you should do is to stop being friends with your boyfriend, before his controlling behaviour escalates into physical and/or emotional abuse whenever he feels insecure.
