Dear Queenie,

I've known for a long time that I'm gay and "came out" to my friends and family a long time ago. They are all okay with it, although my parents aren't exactly happy about it. But I never told my grandparents because they are very religious and think homosexuality is the worst kind of sin.

Recently I was going out on a date with someone I had just met. My grandmother was visiting at the time and asked where I was going. Before I could answer, my mother told her I was gay and going out with someone of the same sex. My grandmother got furious and started ranting at me about being a sinner and going to hell and all like that. She hasn't spoken to me since.

I am so angry at my mother, but she just says, "Oh, she (my grandmother) will get over it."

Queenie, am I wrong to be angry at her or is it my fault for not telling Nana myself?—Outed by Mom

Dear Outed by Mom,

It was up to you whom to tell and when. You have every right to be angry at your mother, but what good does it do? The damage is done.

As for grandma "getting over it," because your mother outed you it is up to her to try to make that happen, no sure thing given grandma's attitude and religion.